Most people think the hardship is the thing that happened to them. It is not. The hardship that does the most damage is the one that comes second. The first wave arrives uninvited. You do not choose it. It lands, and you absorb it. As brutal as it is, it has an end. Time helps, support helps, resilience helps, and you get through it. The second wave is different. It does not come from the outside. It comes from inside. It is the story you tell yourself about what happened and why.

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